Is there really a trick to finding true and long lasting love?

Finding true love this days has become a bed of nails, some people have even learned to look beyond their immediate habitat, let all guards down and dive into the cyber world, who knows the poor guy might be stuck behind one PC, It's that deep... And it doesn't take much energy really, sign up, jot a quick profile, slap up a lone somewhat flattering photo and fling your self out there to the universe.
 Well, while some have become online dating success stories, some are far from it, while some have met soul mates and life partner's, some have  experienced horror. Some have led to dates that turned out to be the end of an anticipated beginning, some have become the beginning of something very beautiful. But really who knows, you could fall in love, get married, and live happily ever after.
Any lady who has had a blissful experience through online dating will always recommend and vise versa. Which ever side of the game you recommend, truth is women still have faith in online dating, they still believe their mr.right could be somewhere out there, just a click away.
Some meet duds, some weirdos, and then some meet some guys who seemed wonderful but suddenly disappeared after first sex. Some meet nice guys who they didn't "click" with. Gorgeous guys who seemed to be drifting, distracted . some cool workaholic guys who texted "I might be free in an hr. Wanna meet up?" and then cancelled.
The analysis can go on for ever.
More often, this single ladies may ask, *what is wrong with me?"  Personally you'd wonder if they really are doing something wrong. Maybe some could be too obliging, and some too demanding and then the other one too... serious? fun? is there such a thing as being too fun? The phenomenon of why stable, beautiful, intelligent, good mannered  ladies stay single beyond their wish has become an unsolved puzzle.
 It has become very popular to blame single people's personalities, appearances, mannerisms and jobs for their singleness. Most of the time even when that checks out fine, we still reach for something deeper.
The mantra goes on... You have to find your self to find love.
You have to love yourself enough to attract love into your life.
You have to already be complete before someone can complete you (wait,what?).
A lot of advice hurled at single people suggest that there is more work to be done. You have to solve your problems, you have to learn to be happy all of the time on your own.
 It goes on... You're giving off wrong energy. You're too desperate. You're not open enough. You're intimidating men. Men are attracted to non -threatening, smiley women, with big, friendly teeth and a successful career that isn't successful enough to be intimidating. You have to be self sufficient enough but not to the extent that it renders you unfeminine. And don't text him so soon after the date! And don't sleep with him right away. Or wait, maybe you should.  You don't want to appear weird and uptight about sex.
A happy committed relationship is often dangled like a yummy plate full of delicious meal at the end of a day's fast.
 For some individuals, it is actually a very comforting feeling to meet and click with that one person that is not so great, not so complete, but you both are content in the fact that in all the incompleteness and nothingness you complete each other. Perfectly!
 While some other, smart, kind, beautiful, smiley, clever, successful, talented, warm ladies watch and turn a cruel analyzing gaze on themselves, searching for problems at the root of their singleness.
Not to disrespect anyone, but let's be real, when most ladies met their other half, it was at a stage where they barely knew what they were doing with their lives, insecure, cocky, scared, not so fashionable with frizzy hair and pimples.
So I could be right if I say that it's sorta' a mystery why so many people we know who want very much to find partners are still single. Maybe the women are choosier, or maybe we should just settle with the fact that the Union that happened to most women, maybe, had a lot to do with randomness and luck.
 It's not that no one is ever doing anything wrong, or no one need to try to work on themselves, or be more smiley, or try to love themselves first before loving someone else. Those things are important too. But they're obviously aren't the trick to finding  a loving lasting relationship.
  Some of us find love when we're at the top, succeeding and self-actualized and fabulously vivacious, others of us find love when we're at our absolute worst. While a lot of us find it somewhere on the middle, and then we grow with our partners and hopefully continue to improve ourselves, the way we would hopefully do if we were single... Marriage I feel is a place where you can grow without the consciousness of living to impress some "Mr.Right".

So ladies I'd say live a bliss "your bliss" till your better half shows up, cos in truth there is no perfect way to find love, so analyzing your singleness is helping no one and it's downright pointless.

Have a fun read.

PS/ I'd really enjoy to read your comment about your views on this topic.

THank you

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